One of the most crucial issues that faces organizations such as ours, placing children in adoption, is " where have all the children gone " ? This " Disappearance " of adoptable children seems to have affected agencies all over the country. On the other hand the numbers of eligible waiting parents within the country keeps growing. This gap between demand and supply to my mind is pushing desperate parents into illegal adoptions. At least three of our couples, discontinued the Home-Study mid-stream, and it seems, took a child from " Somewhere " .
If one examines the hazards of such adoptions one would
conclude that the need to have a child makes otherwise rational
couples, throw caution to the winds. For most families who are
adopting, the Home-Study process is absolutely crucial in making
the ultimate placement of the child in the family, a success.
Careful, thought-out parenting, proper counseling with regard to
specific adoption issues and screening of eligible parents, ensures
the well-being of the child and the parents. A new-born baby
taken from a nursing home directly is a risky proposition. The
child could be HIV+ or have other serious conditions, which it is
hard to assess at such an early age. Because this is a " Secret
" adoption. The child will never be told that she has been
adopted. Parents are also paying out huge sums of money to " buy
" these children. They also put themselves in line to be black
mailed by unscrupulous staff in the nursing homes.
So where have these children gone ? Though the J.J. Act of 2000
has mandated that all Child Welfare Institutions must be registered
under the Provisions of the Act, even by 2009 most State
Governments have not completed this process. In effect many institutions " Collecting "
children are not even on the Government radar, unless they take
some Government grant. It is indeed tragic that many children who
could be adopted, remain in institutional care, most of which is
sub-standard. It is said that abortions are happening on a wider
scale and that there is much more awareness about terminating
unwanted pregnancies even at a later stage.
It is necessary for The State Governments, CARA, ACA, Adoption
Agencies and Adoptive Parents to be more pro-active in stopping
illegal adoptions. It is ridiculous that a country like India,
with such a large population, does only 3000 adoptions a year.
The Ashraya General Body Meeting was held on 06.11.2008. We have
had five Committee Meetings in the current year under review.
Mrs. Nomita Chandy was reelected as the Agency Member on the ACA-K
Committee.
Events
Diwali Party
On the 24th of October we had an In-house Diwali Party for the
children in the Children#39;s Home and Ashraya staff. All the staff
were given a Diwali bonus. We celebrated the day with crackers
and a special tea and a cultural performance by the children, who
were dressed up in colourful party-wear.
This was also a farewell for our Social Worker Reena, who has
joined another NGO " Action for Water Development " Reena resigned
from Ashraya on 25th of October.
ANNUAL GET-TOGETHER OF ADOTIVE PARENTS AND CHILDREN :
Having shied away from Diwali and the nightmare of dealing with
too many, children and crackers ; of Christmas and wailing kids
sitting on Santa#39;s lap ; we finally seem to have found the right
time of the year to host this event.
Last year the get-together was held on the 15th of November, in
time to celebrate Adoption Week and Children#39;s Day. Parents and
children are back from vacation and the weather is good !
200 parents and children accepted our invitation. The children of
Swami Vivekananda Educational Society, presented a Puppet Show in
Kannada, which was enjoyed by all the kids. The Ashraya children
performed and the piece -de-resistance was a spirited dance
performance by adoptive mother Roopa Krishnan and friends. Ms. Hema
Hattangadi opened our new " Isolation Ward " for sick children,
which she and Ashok had most generously funded .
The Ashraya children inaugurated our new Crafts Centre, which
displays work from the Neelbagh School.
The day ended with High tea and a lot of camaraderie.
ASHRAYA PICNIC :
This is the opportunity for staff from all our projects to meet
up once in the year and have a fun-filled day. On the 15th of
December 2008 we visited Shivarapatna, the Sculptor#39;s village near
Kolar. The visit was facilitated by Ms. Chandra Jain and we had a
really interesting walk around this ancient village, where artisans
were chipping away at huge granite sculptures. From here we
proceeded to the Vimochana Women#39;s Centre, near Narasapura, which
is a beautiful location.
We had a good Biryani lunch and then the staff and children
played a spirited game of Antakshari. This was also a farewell
for Mr. Raghavendra, Principal of the Neelbagh School.
CHRISTMAS PARTY :
The Party was held on Saturday the 20th of December only for the Children#39;s Home kids. We sang a few Carols ; little Nisha acted the part of Santa and reluctantly handed over gifts to the other children ; We wound up with tea with traditional Christmas cake, Kulkuls and Bondas ! Adoptive parent Ravi Sreedharan and family were there just by chance.
COLLABORATION WITH INDIRA GANDHI CHILDREN#39;S HOSPITAL :
This must, by any standard, be the best run Government hospital
in the country. What is remarkable is that the services are free
and it is a god - send for the low birth weight and sick babies
we have to hospitalize.
MUSTER :
The Annual Muster was completed between the 10th and 11th of
March. We continue to process all donations of clothes and toys
each month, to all our projects and to other needy organizations.
This ensures that all donations to Ashraya are well-utilized. The
Muster also helps us to turn-around our stock of clothes, linen
and equipment at the Children#39;s Home, so that all torn clothes
and broken toys are discarded regularly.
STAFF :
Our Social Worker Reshma, resigned from Ashraya on the 30th of
April 2009, to get married. Our congratulations and best wishes to
Reshma and Prasad. Usha Lekha, who had left Ashraya earlier to
have a baby, returned to Ashraya in place of Reshma, in April.
We were happy to welcome Usha back into the Ashraya fold.
WORKSHOPS AND MEETINGS :
1. The Overseas Women#39;s Club of Bangalore held their Charity
Information Meeting at Windsor Manor on the 13th of October. Vidya
Mujumdar and Reshma represented Ashraya.
The OWC had kindly donated money to us to buy stationery for the
Neelbagh School. 2. Akashavani Radio had a programme featuring the work of NGO#39;s.
On the 13th of October Reena spoke about our Women#39;s Centre and
other projects and answered queries of people who phoned in. 3. Sutradhar organized an interesting workshop on the 17th and 18th
of July on " Pre-school Learning and Teaching Techniques ". Our
Creche teacher Sarita and Jennifer Stephen attended and found the
sessions very informative. 4. The American Consulate Chennai, had a meeting with NGO#39;s on
the 25th of August 2009 on " Sustaining Social Corporate
Responsibility During Economic Recession ". Vidya Mujumdar and
Sumati Satish represented Ashraya. 5. The OWC held another Charity Information Morning on the 11th of
September 2009. Vidya Mujumdar and Usha attended. 6. Nona and Radhika facilitated an orientation on adoption for 8
newly recognized agencies in the districts of Karnataka, on
28.01.2009. Visitors 1.
Elana Roschy, from WACAP, and her husband, visited Ashraya on
the 7th and 8th of October 2008. they also visited the
Missionaries of Charity to see if WACAP could place any of their
Special Needs children. 2.
Mr. Bruce Haxton i to i Co-ordinator from the U.K. and i to
i Co-ordinator Asha Dey, from Bangalore, visited us on the 24th of
October to review the volunteer programme. 3.
Ms. Monica Lind, officials from MIA ( The Swedish Authority for
Inter-country Adoption) visited Ashraya on the 10th of November.
They also visited the Observation Home Project, which helps
delinquent boys. 4.
A Delegation of ten Italians from the Veneto Region , comprising of Psychologists and Social workers, visited Bangalore on the 21st and 22nd
of November 2008. They also visited the Observation Home Project, The Infant Jesus Home for HIV+ children and the Creches and were impressed with our interventions in all these projects
5.
Mr. Paolo Palmerini, from the CIAI Regional Office in Pondicherry, visited Ashraya on the 17th of December 2008 to help us to streamline our grant proposals. Valli has joined the Ashraya team, in December, to co-ordinate the CIAI projects. The system is now much more streamlined and is functioning with acceptable accountability and deadlines. Mr. Davide Olchini, has taken over from Paolo in September 2009
6.
This was sadly Monica Lind’s last official visit to Ashraya on the 20th of April 2009, as Monica is retiring from A.C. We wish Ms. Monica who has been a wonderful counter-part in the adoption programme and also a good friend. We have all learnt a lot from all the Partner’s meets she organized with such enthusiasm, in different parts of the country every other year.
We also welcome Maria Suarez, who replaces Monica as the India Co-ordinator in A.C CRECHES Ashraya runs four crèches currently, at Shivajinagar, Richmond Town, Yelahanka and Siddapura. Currently there are approx. 148 children in the Creches.
WOMEN’S CENTRE AND CONVENTION CENTRE There are currently 13 women at the Women’s Centre and 25 children in the Creche.
WORKSHOPS STAFF Manjula resigned as the Superintendent of the Women’s Centre as she was getting married. We held a felicitation for her and husband Mallesh on the 23rd of January and presented the couple with a gift from Ashraya. We are happy that Manjula has re-joined Ashraya some months later, as a Resource Person.
INNAUGURATION OF THE TRAINING CUM CONVENTION CENTRE :
The 20th of April 2009 was a red-letter day for Ashraya. The Honourable Governor of West Bengal, Mr. Gopal Gandhi and his wife Tara, inaugurated the beautiful new Centre near Nelamangala. The Convention Centre has 20 double rooms, a fully equipped convention hall, lounges and a dining area. The training unit has 2 dormitories with 24 beds and a training area. The grounds have been attractively landscaped. The total cost of construction was one crore and ten lakhs.
All the dignitaries planted trees and appreciated the ambience of the low cost buildings, built by the Centre for Vernacular Architecture. Presentations were made to Mr. Kumar and some of the key workers.
OBSERVATION HOME Ashraya remains on the Home-Committee of the Observation Home. We have been pushing hard for regular home committee meetings to be held. The Rotary Club discontinued the vocational training programme, which Ashraya has now kick-started again in September, with the help of Goodwill International, in Tailoring. The problem of violence perpetrated by the Police is still a problematic area. Details were given to Ms. Neena Nayak, Chairperson of the State Commission for Child Rights, to investigate and take action.
EVENTS The Annual Children’s Day, on the 14th of November, was celebrated at the Home with a special lunch, games and a cultural programme. The lunch was sponsored by G.E. Volunteers.
Neelbagh The Neelbagh School is funded entirely through a sponsorship programme. 165 children are sponsored by Italian families, through CIAI. We have 22 individual sponsors, 103 girl children are sponsored partially through the K.C. Mahindra Nanhi Kalli Programme. We also get a monthly donation from ICARE, which is an organization based in Australia. It is thanks to these generous donors that we are able to educate the most underprivileged rural children and children of construction workers. Currently there are 309 children in the school, of whom 98 are resident in our four hostels. For the tenth class SSLC Board examinations 15 children took the exam. All the children passed except for one child , who got a compartment in Maths. They get 8 First classes and 4 Second class passes. There are totally 148 girls and 161 boys in the school
NEELBAGH ANNUAL DAY EVENTS STAFF Mr. Raghavendra who has been with us for 9 years, resigned as Principal on 12.12.2008. After a temporary and unsatisfactory appointment of another Principal, we decided to look internally and appointed
Mr. Manjunath as the Headmaster and in-charge of the school in February 2009. This arrangement seems to be working quite well Mr. Srinivas is the 2nd in command
.
Volunteers Though I consider Neelbagh to be an excellent opportunity for volunteering, of late we have found it hard to lure volunteers away from the city lights of Bangalore. We were most happy to have Tom from England and Rob from the USA to volunteer from June 9th to October this year. They contributed significantly to the teaching of English in particular and presented us with a very detailed manual of instruction for volunteers. Rob presented his suggestions to the staff and Radhika moderated the session. We shall incorporate many of the suggestions he has made into improving our teaching methodology. Our thanks to both of them for all their contribution and help..
ADVOCACY Nomita Chandy met Mr. Murali Deora, The Union Minister for Petroleum and Energy in New Delhi and requested him to ask H.P. to revert us back to using domestic cylinders, as the use of commercial cylinders was prohibitively expensive. We are grateful for his prompt action.
IN CONCLUSION As always, the year goes by so fast, packed with events spread through all our projects. We could not achieve this level of excellence in all that we do without the active support of a hands on committee, and the excellent work done by all our staff.
To Quote John D. Rockefeller ?Charity is injurious, unless it helps the recipient to become independent of it ?
Excerpts from our visitor’s book 8th October 2008 13th October 2008
10th November 2008
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19th December 2008
22nd January 2009
January 27th 2009
16th March 2009
20th April 2009
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27th April 2009
10th June 2009
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ADOPTION STATISTICS JANUARY TO DECEMBER 2008
News About the Ashraya Family
Mrs. Sumathi Subbaiah |
President |
Mrs. Nomita Chandy |
Secretary |
Mrs. Sumati Satish |
Treasurer |
Ms. Shanthi Chacko |
Member |
Mrs. Surya Vaz |
Member |
Ms. Anjolie Advani |
Member |
Ms. Christy Abraham |
Member |
Mrs. Shobha Kumar |
Member |
Mrs. Vidya Majumdar |
Member |
Radhika Nambiar, |
MSW |
Social Worker |
Lavinia Lewis, |
MSW |
Social Worker |
Usha Lekha |
MSW |
Social Worker |
Kavitha |
Accountant |
Sharmila |
Secretarial Assistant |
Meera |
Teacher |
Prakash |
Office Assistant |
Nagendra |
Driver |
Rani |
Creche Worker |
Agnes |
Creche Worker |
Saritha |
Creche Worker |
Jayamary |
House Mother |
Lakshmi |
Cook |
Thilaga |
Child-Caretakers |
Shantha |
Child-Caretakers |
Shanthamma |
Child-Caretakers |
Yellamma |
Child-Caretakers |
Gayatri |
Child-Caretakers |
Jacintha |
Child-Caretakers |
Devi |
Child-Caretakers |
Martha |
Child-Caretakers |
Ammu |
Child-Caretakers |
Anusuya B. |
Child-Caretakers |
Meherunissa |
Child-Caretakers |
Dhanamma |
Child-Caretakers |
Kumari |
Part-time cleaning lady |
Thimmaiah |
Part-time gardener |
Siddamma |
|
Pushpamma |
Housemother |
Pushpavalli |
Housemother |
Dr. N.V.S. Krishnan |
Paediatrician |
Ms. Jennifer Stephen |
Developmental Therapist |
Ms. Valli Ram Mohan |
Documentation Officer |
Mr. Manjunath |
Headmaster |
Varalakshmi |
Teacher |
Shivamma |
Teacher |
Nagaraju |
Teacher |
Yashoda |
Teacher |
Pushpalatha |
Teacher |
Srinivas Reddy |
Teacher |
Yashoda |
Teacher |
Raghu |
Teacher |
Manjula |
Teacher |
Manjunath Rao |
Craft Teacher |
Kalpana |
Tailoring Teacher cum House Mother |
Mehboob Pasha |
Carpentry Instructor |
Kumar |
Computer Instructor (VAPS) |
Yasmeen |
Kitchen In-charge |
Vanaja |
Kitchen Staff |
Rukmini Bai |
Kitchen Staff |
Srinivasa |
Support Staff |
Subbamma |
Support Staff |
Reddamma |
Support Staff |
Manjula |
Support Staff |
Padmavathamma |
Support Staff |
Susheela |
Support Staff |
Raja Reddy |
Driver |
Thirumalappa |
Driver |
Subramani |
Pottery Instructor |
Venkataramana |
Electrical & Plumbing Instructor |
Shivashankar |
Dance Teacher |
Narasamma |
Teacher |
Prameela |
Teacher |
Ratna |
Teacher Creche Worker Helper |
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Balaneela |
Teacher Creche Worker Helper |
||
Shantha Devi |
Teacher Creche Worker Helper |
||
Malathi |
Teacher Creche Worker Helper |
||
Sheshavathi |
Teacher Creche Worker Helper |
||
Saraswathi |
Teacher Creche Worker Helper |
||
Ambika |
Teacher Creche Worker Helper |
||
Mamatha |
Teacher Creche Worker Helper |
||
Rohini |
Teacher Creche Worker Helper |
||
Rani |
Teacher Creche Worker Helper |
||
Manjula |
Teacher Creche Worker Helper |
||
Madevi |
Teacher Creche Worker Helper |
||
Radha |
Teacher Creche Worker Helper |
||
Bhavani Bai |
Superintendent |
Manjula |
Outreach Social Worker |
Mamatha |
Creche Worker |
Jayanthi |
Creche Helper |
Narasimaiah |
Part-time gardener |
Shashikala |
Teacher |
Anand |
Dance Master |
R. Anand |
Counsellor |
Jyothi Subbarao |
Counsellor |
Umadevi |
Tailoring Teacher |
Children’s Home |
40 |
Neelbagh |
309 |
Observation Home |
45 |
Women’s Centre (Creche) |
25 |
Women’s Centre (No. of women) |
15 |
Creches |
140 |
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Total |
574 |